tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17978433.post8112262886703729383..comments2023-11-05T04:00:56.461-05:00Comments on Mairs Momilies: Blessed are the poor in spiritJust Mairshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17351598006358891645noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17978433.post-7134262505409872742007-08-19T14:25:00.000-04:002007-08-19T14:25:00.000-04:00Thanks for sharing Susan! My friend was referring...Thanks for sharing Susan! My friend was referring to the *mom*'s trauma in going through this experience since it radically affects both the mother and baby (in this case a 12 yo girl who had been raped by her own father). She had to relive that trauma every moment of her pregnancy and then through the delivery and as she looked at and tried to parent her baby moment to moment. *She* is broken by her trauma. You are so fortunate that Luci is doing so well. Unfortunately, many children *do* experience dramatic attachment issues that can't be solved with just loving them more (to argue otherwise to their parents would serve only to heap more guilt upon their shoulders). They become a major disruption to family life at home and a danger to themselves and others elsewhere. It is heartbreaking to see children who are so broken from birth. They are the truly poor in spirit and I pray for them and their families who daily have to pick up the pieces of their lives. It is very, very hard. And yet, I would still say worth it in Kingdom terms.Just Mairshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351598006358891645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17978433.post-51844398668270503802007-08-15T01:11:00.000-04:002007-08-15T01:11:00.000-04:00Mair, that is truly lovely. (sorry if this is pos...Mair, that is truly lovely. (sorry if this is posting twice, it says it didn't go through) As I read what the friend of yours thought, I wondered how you would respond. I thought about my own Luci, and how we won't ever know what pre-birth attachment her China-momma had or didn't have to her. I do know I would tell that friend that my child was not attached (she was found on day 2 of life in front of a little store on a chilly October day) yet she is attached now, to a whole family who adores her. Her problem of abandonment by that birth mother is not a problem...the child is now getting spoiled and that is now her problem. :) She lives a fairy-tale come true every day and calls her Daddy "my Prince." JT wrote in a little essay that he is glad that Luci came into his life because she wakes him up everyday with a kiss, saying, "Good morning, Sunshine." <BR/><BR/>I would argue against aborting that child made from tragedy because that child is precious and has so much to offer--whether as a whole child, offering himself to others someday; or as a broken child who brings out the love and compassion of Christ in others.<BR/><BR/>Praying for you and your family. You are precious, Mary!<BR/><BR/>love you, Susan W from FG.LucisMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619129172904595176noreply@blogger.com